Things you would tell your thirteen year old self.

Many would say you’re 22 (coming 23 in a few days)… what would someone who finds themselves in the ‘twenty something’ age bracket know about mistakes or even have idioms of wisdom to offer? Maybe it’s the impending birthday or the personality trait of someone who has a tendency to over think. But recently my daydreams have drifted towards the question…

Hypothetically speaking, if you could go back in time and meet yourself 10 years ago, what advice would you give yourself for the years ahead?

I invite you to picture yourself ten years ago!

For myself, I visualise ‘Aisling’- school uniform, badly styled hair, with a diamante clip wedged at the front to keep a thick unflattering fringe at bay! I’d say on my hobbit feet, I’d be supporting clumpy ‘mammy approved’ shoes. I like to call this period B.M. –aka before make-up, overall my image perfectly epitomised a ‘goodie-two shoes’ (think Mia Thermopolis pre-princess makeover) and I was more than self-aware of this…

This leads me onto my first point, prepare yourself for a cliché; ‘don’t care about what other people think’ if you’re happy with your choice, your opinion, your actions, then it really doesn’t matter what anybody thinks. Those who care about you will support you in your decision if not straight away, eventually and sometimes they’ll just have to tolerate that choice, hairstyle or tattoo; because they love you.

This also applies to when you’ve messed up and made a mistake. I’m not condoning that you should make reckless decisions and not care about the consequences for others. In these instances, you will know yourself when you’ve messed up, so apologise, do your best to make it right and then move on. Don’t beat yourself up about it, life is too short. (I’m thinking there is a potential to create some form of drinking game with the amount of clichés I’ve used in this short post)

That boy/girl that didn’t work out,that disco you weren’t able to go too. It’s NOT the end of the world. I distinctly remember an incident when 13 year old Aisling wasn’t allowed to go to a local disco and in retaliation she slammed a lot of doors and played Kelly Clarkson ‘Miss independent’ at full blast for an hour. Save yourself that embarrassment. Your dad will remind you of this a lot. #dramaqueen?

In regards to the ridiculous clothes, shoes and makeup, if you love it, buy it, because it will only haunt you. These outfit/beauty faux-pas’ make for some hilarious photograph viewing in future years. Plus early teenage years are probably the only time you are ever going to get away with multi-coloured eye shadow and sequined halter-neck tops, so why not?

Do Erasmus, take that gap year, grasp every opportunity to travel and take pictures. I am a self-admitted procrastinator who is well acquainted with the statement- ‘I’ll do it later’. I’ll take that photo later or I’ll take that trip later. Do it now, take the trip now, you’ll never be as young and you’ll never have enough money, or the freedom you have now. Also stop worrying about looking like a tourist when taking that photo/selfie. Like I said in my first point, who cares!

The most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself, honour your inner child, be happy with yourself, ‘treat yo’ self’. Being able to spend time with yourself and be happy in your own person is a lifelong journey- no time like the present to start. Find what makes you happy, the sooner the better.

Finally; enjoy, be grateful and try to find something good in every day.

I’m not claiming to be a life expert, I’m fumbling through like us all and unfortunately time travel doesn’t exist. Thus, we all have to go through the trials and tribulations to ‘learn about life’. However if the situation, I have presented could come true and you could share some wisdom with your younger self, what would it be and would you?

A x

Things you would tell your thirteen year old self.